Pain to Purpose

When Ashley Mitchell asked me to write a post for Big Tough Girl in honor of National Adoption Month, I of course jumped at the chance.  As you know, she and I have become dear friends through the adoption community.  She leads the charge in providing love, healing, support, encouragement, and community for birth moms - the true Big Tough Girls.  I love hear heart and passion, and I love joining hands with her to encompass each side of the adoption triad.  When she asked me to write, I knew immediately what the subject would be.  I knew several weeks back that I wanted to combine National Adoption Month with Thanksgiving and talk about why I am grateful that my infertility led to the adoption journey that God had planned for us.  I wanted to share something that would touch each side of the adoption triad and pray that it has and continues to do so.  And for others, I pray that it reveals more about me and our story but most of all about how God can turn whatever pain you are going through into a purpose that He has for your life.  It may not be infertility, but I pray that through our journey you can see God's glory and redemption that lies ahead for you and your own life.

Thank you Ashley for sharing Pain to Purpose over at Big Tough Girl today.  I pray that it reaches many, encourages many, and reveals God's glory.  

I knew that “whatever my lot” then it should be well with my soul. But it wasn’t. I was angry. And I was broken, which is exactly where God needed me to be. I had done everything my whole life in the right order – graduate high school, college, get married, get a good job, and now it was supposed to be my time to have children. And it was my time. It just wasn’t exactly how I had planned for it to happen.
— Jenny

(To read the full Pain to Purpose post, click on the link above.)


A series for people who are grateful for infertility?  Sounds crazy right! But it's not... what was once a phase of life marked by heartache and longing, has now become the scars that make us beautiful. Some of you reading this are right in the middle of your wait, are facing an unclear future or have been scarred by infertility. You may be struggling with how you could possibly be grateful for infertility. It took us a long time to get there ourselves. This is one of those areas where sometimes our faith has to guide us while our hearts and heads catch up. We have to practice thankfulness, even when it makes little sense, while God does His divine work on our souls.