It Takes More Than Luck

We are fearfully and wonderfully made.
— Psalm 139:14

In the quiet wee hours of the morning, as we stare down into the eyes of our newborn child and gently hum a lullaby to get them back to sleep, we love that verse. And rightly so. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. And nothing in the world quite compares to the innocence and amazing creation of a tiny babe. But when it takes months, even years, of heartache and a torturous path on our own souls and bodies to conceive or adopt this perfect little creature, can we look into the mirror and say the same thing? We are fearfully and wonderfully made too. Can we look past the hurt and grief and our own engineered plans for our lives that have been tossed out with the trash and see that we, too, are wonderfully made?

We are, you know. We don't "outgrow" that verse. Our mothers looked at us in our infancy, just as we look (or will look) at our own children, and they saw the beauty of God's plans for our lives. They saw a lifetime of potential. As we grow, our potential turns into plans - that we, with our limited view of time and world, make. When those plans don't quite match up with God's plans, we often chalk it up to a run of bad luck. But dear friends, life, children, family... those aren't left up to luck.

While many are blessed to have children with few fertility complications, some of us aren't quite as "lucky." Whether our stories are seamless transitions into parenthood, bumpy shifts through a variety of fertility treatments, or are formed by the wonderful blessing of adoption, none of us are any more or less "lucky" than another.

We are simply living out a life, specifically designed, by God's sovereign hand. We are living a life that is designed to bring us, and those around us, closer to Him and grow our faith and make us stronger - as couples, parents, friends, disciples.

We started this series to share a variety of stories from others who at one time might have viewed themselves as the "unlucky." Like Jenny and myself, they didn't have the seamless transition they once hoped for into parenthood. But hindsight has afforded them the opportunity to see that the luck they once thought they were missing, was really the hand of God intervening in their life so that the timing and method in which their family started would be perfect for them. Instead of luck, we found God's presence in our lives, providing for us, comforting us, changing us, preparing the way for something that would redefine our definition of blessings.

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
— Romans 8:26-28

Growing a family takes much more than luck... it takes God's hand, His will and His perfect timing for you. If you are waiting on your family now, I pray these stories encourage you. As you read them, take a step back and try to glance at your circumstances from an eternal perspective. What if what you see as bad luck, is really God's eternal purpose taking form in your life?

XO,

 
 

We started this More Than Luck series to share a variety of stories from others who at one time might have viewed themselves as the "unlucky." Like Jenny and myself, they didn't have the seamless transition they once hoped for into parenthood. But hindsight has afforded them the opportunity to see that the luck they once thought they were missing, was really the hand of God intervening in their life so that the timing and method in which their family started would be perfect for them. Instead of luck, we found God's presence in our lives, providing for us, comforting us, changing us, preparing the way for something that would redefine our definition of blessings.