Grateful for Infertility? Lisa's Story

It is our honor to bring you a story of faithfulness and blessings through IVF. After struggling through a period of infertility, Lisa is now a dedicated, loving mother of two precious boys. She loves playing with her sons, date nights with her husband, painting pottery and reading. She was gracious enough to share her story of infertility and how it makes her grateful.  Please join us as we have the privilege of sharing Lisa's Story.

Our Story...

After four years of marriage, we decided to try to conceive our first child in October of 2007. We already knew our chances weren't great and my ob-gyn put me on Clomid after only a few months. My body didn't respond favorably at all. We gave up that option after six disappointing months. Eventually, we decided to see a reproductive endocrinologist. We began another drug that works similar to Clomid called Femara. We had a better response to that one but still no pregnancy. Next, we paired it with IUI's. We began to lose hope, unsure if we were willing to take the next so, so expensive step.

Our insurance wouldn't help at all but we wanted to become parents so badly that in October of 2009, we began our first round of IVF. Initially, everything seemed to be going well. We were told I had around 13 eggs developing. So, on the day of retrieval, I was devastated after coming out of light anesthesia, to learn that only 5 eggs were retrieved. Out of those, only one was viable and it wasn't the best looking.

Just after Thanksgiving that year, we found out our first round of IVF had failed. We grieved for what might have been. Our friends and family were supportive but it was a very lonely feeling. Often, couples experiencing this hardship don't know anyone who knows what it feels like. That's why an online support community is so helpful. I found that my prayer life and love of Jesus helped to keep me from despair.

In January of 2010, we began our second and final round of IVF. This was it. There was no way we could afford a third. My doctor decided that since my fertility problem seemed to be improper and inadequate egg maturation, he would give me a high and experimental dose of hormones on my last day of injections. On retrieval day, we got 20 eggs! Eighteen fertilized and 17 made it to transfer day! We transferred 2 beautiful embryos. Ten agonizing days passed. We weren't due at the clinic for a pregnancy test for 4 more days. However, I was convinced it hadn't worked. I cried that morning until it was time for work. I work in a hospital lab as a medical laboratory scientist. I ran a blood test to get it over with so I could go ahead and try to accept that I would never become a mom.

To my great surprise, the test came back with a result of 37.1! I was pregnant! That was a very scary and very early result but the pregnancy continued. In March, at 7 weeks, we found out it was a single pregnancy and I had a huge subchorionic hemorrhage threatening the pregnancy. For the next 5 weeks we prayed every day for our baby. Eventually the hemorrhage healed completely! We were having a little boy! Aside from a well controlled case of gestational diabetes the rest of the pregnancy went well. On October 20th 2011, our bouncing baby boy was born at 39 weeks. He was a healthy 7 lbs 9.5 ounces and perfect!

It's funny, in a way, I'm thankful for everything we went through to have him. Whenever things get tough I always remember what infertility felt like and how blessed I am to be that little miracle's mother. Not every mother has that on the days when their toddler is bouncing off the walls and making mess after mess. I will always have this thankfulness with me. And, it extends to my youngest son as well. That's right! We had a surprise pregnancy last year! I guess my body finally figured out what it was doing! I thank God every day for my handsome wonderful little boys! They are both miracles in different ways as all babies are. I'm also thankful for the 5 frozen embryos we have waiting for us to use to possibly expand our family again.

A series for people who are grateful for infertility?  Sounds crazy right! But it's not... what was once a phase of life marked by heartache and longing, has now become the scars that make us beautiful. Some of you reading this are right in the middle of your wait, are facing an unclear future or have been scarred by infertility. You may be struggling with how you could possibly be grateful for infertility. It took us a long time to get there ourselves. This is one of those areas where sometimes our faith has to guide us while our hearts and heads catch up. We have to practice thankfulness, even when it makes little sense, while God does His divine work on our souls.