Grateful for Infertility? Janessa's Story of IVF and Adoption

We are so grateful for the response we've had to our Grateful for Infertility series and for the amazing stories that have come with each new connection. Janessa's story has to be one of my favorites as she talks about finding gratitude in the midst of some really difficult diagnoses and quest for their own biological child through IVF, and through a beautiful and unique adoption story.

It's weird to say I am grateful for infertility or any trial for that matter.

My name is Janessa and my husband and I have struggled with infertility for three and a half years. But when I look back on the struggle, there definitely is SO much to be thankful for.

If we didn't have infertility, we wouldn't have adopted Ashton. We had been trying for almost two years when he came into our lives. Luckily the grandparents who were looking for adoptive parents were very close to us and knew our fertility struggles! Feel free to click on over to our blog to read more about our unique adoption story. Because of our infertility, we had an opportunity to adopt the most beautiful boy!! And I am so grateful everyday.

I also found out through infertility that I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis. Luckily my husband isn't but our children will be carriers. I am now grateful to have that information so that my future family doesn't have to struggle with this. We did IVF in February of this year (2014). Unfortunately, it failed. My doctor was determined to figure out why. We did more testing and found out I have an immunodeficiency and my body kills off embryos. In September, we found a solution for this and tried another round of IVF. I am now 10 weeks along!

This past year has been some of my darkest of times and I have never felt more loved. Lastly, infertility has opened up our lives to so many people. I have made many close friends and have helped many and been helped by many dealing with the same struggles.  Although it has been one of the hardest things we have gone through, and continue to go through, I wouldn't change a single thing.

I was born and raised in Utah, got married and planted roots in Lehi, UT. I love to craft. I espcially love to create wreaths for my front door for every holiday and season. I also do shellac nails, for friends and family, but mostly for myself. When I have free time, I enjoy reading a good book. I'm a blog addict and love to tell about our lives and stories over at jsquaredfrahmI hope you'll stop by!


A series for people who are grateful for infertility?  Sounds crazy right! But it's not... what was once a phase of life marked by heartache and longing, has now become the scars that make us beautiful. Some of you reading this are right in the middle of your wait, are facing an unclear future or have been scarred by infertility. You may be struggling with how you could possibly be grateful for infertility. It took us a long time to get there ourselves. This is one of those areas where sometimes our faith has to guide us while our hearts and heads catch up. We have to practice thankfulness, even when it makes little sense, while God does His divine work on our souls.