Being Grateful for Big Tough Girls {Part 1}

Today I am taking a bit of a different spin on why I am grateful for my infertility.  It's also National Adoption Awareness Month and instead of featuring things just specific to my own story, I want to feature others that are equally as deserving to have their stories shared.  The person I am featuring today is not directly affected by infertility, but she has a huge impact on many of us that are.  If not for my infertility I would have never met this amazing BIG TOUGH GIRL.

Ashley is a dear friend of mine that I have embraced in my heart and hope to one day embrace in my arms.  She is a birth mom who has bared her soul, formed a huge Big Tough Girl community, is a huge advocate for adoption, and a friend to everyone she meets. Through the power of redemption, God led her from sitting in an abortion clinic to placing her baby boy for adoption. From that moment on she grew in her faith and formed a huge support system for other women who found themselves in the same situation.  Many may judge them, but few will ever understand what they have gone through and the heart changes that take place.  If not for them, women like me would not ever have the chance to be mommies.  I'm grateful for Ashley, our friendship, what she stands for, and for our partnership to build the adoption community.  I'm eternally grateful for the choices that these beautiful, strong women make.  And I'm especially grateful for our own birth mom.  

In the 8.5 years since placement I have never shared a picture from the hospital, and I have only shared a few moments from those few days. There are moments from my time in the hospital when I was a mother for the first time that I will never forget. I wanted his family to experience as many moments of firsts and bonding as possible...but this moment was really something amazing. I am so grateful for those sacred and tender moments that I keep so close my heart. Bringing this amazing child into this world is one of my greatest accomplishments.
— Ashley Mitchell, birth mom

If not for my infertility, if not for these precious women, and if not for adoption - then I would have missed out on some of the greatest friendships and blessings in my life.  I would not be the mommy of E.  Today I am grateful that out of the pain, arose a great friendship that spans the country.  Please join us in welcoming Ashley back to the blog today as we share HER adoption story (click on link below). You won't want to miss her story.


Ashley Mitchell is sharing her truly inspiring story with the world!  She shares of her journey of finding herself in an unplanned pregnancy, the sacred miracle that took place at the abortion clinic, the adoption plan, placing a baby for adoption and LIFE AFTER PLACEMENT.  Not only is she sharing her grief and loss, including many life challenges with alcohol abuse, a life changing and heart breaking drunk driving accident, the battle of cancer and more she is also sharing her amazing story of survival, faith, miracles, hope, finding her worth, healing and community.  Ashley speaks to audiences about what it takes to become a self-proclaimed Big Tough Girl™. She speaks about finding acceptance first during the grieving process, learning to own your story, redemption and standing firm in your foundation of love and healing.  Ashley has great fire, passion and MOXIE and she brings that to you LIVE!  Her powerful story will stir your soul and bring you to tears.

A series for people who are grateful for infertility?  Sounds crazy right! But it's not... what was once a phase of life marked by heartache and longing, has now become the scars that make us beautiful. Some of you reading this are right in the middle of your wait, are facing an unclear future or have been scarred by infertility. You may be struggling with how you could possibly be grateful for infertility. It took us a long time to get there ourselves. This is one of those areas where sometimes our faith has to guide us while our hearts and heads catch up. We have to practice thankfulness, even when it makes little sense, while God does His divine work on our souls.