Adoption is Love: Jori's Story as an Adoptee and Birthmom

Today not only do I get to share a beautiful story from an incredible woman as a birthmom, but also as an adoptee.  Jori has one of the most unique perspectives and I love how much it is filled with love and grace.  I love how LIFE has been chosen.  I love reading about God's hand being in the details of her own life.  Jori's has been forever changed through adoption.  As she says in her own words below, her own life from the moment she was born until today has not been by chance.  It has been by purpose - God's purpose.  Please join me in welcoming Jori today.  And seriously, how gorgeous is she! Thank you Jori for sharing your beautiful story with us.  You are one BIG TOUGH GIRL and I hope one day for our paths to cross so I can hug you big.  I love you to pieces.

Jori's Story {An Adoptee & Birthmom}

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My birth mother showed she loved me by choosing life. She showed me she loved me by placing me for adoption. One of the hardest choices I think a person can make is putting their own feelings and wants behind the needs of their children. I learned this lesson when I became a birth mother myself. A title that I thought I would never share with her. As an adoptee and birth mother my story is a little more unique.

I was in my second year of college when I became pregnant. I was completely devastated and in utter shock. How could this happen I thought. I was so careless. I thought my life was over. I was terribly mistaken. My family was very encouraging and supportive. They made sure that I knew the choice was ultimately mine, to parent or place for adoption. From then on things started falling into place. The Lord's hand was in it from the beginning. I knew early on that this baby I was carrying was not meant for me. He chose the perfect eternal family for Talia. Her parents are close family friends who have two other adopted children. We were all blessed through her adoption. She was my blessing in disguise.  

Six months after I placed Talia for adoption I reunited with my birth mother. It was a dream come true seeing as I had a closed adoption. The first thing I told her when I met her was “thank you”. I thanked her for everything. For allowing her own heart to break so I could have the life she dreamed of. At that exact moment when we hugged for the first time I knew exactly how she felt because I just went through it.

My blessings didn’t end there. The month after I reunited with my birth mother I met and fell madly in love with my husband. 10 months later we were blessed with twin girls. I had the honor of being a mother again at 24. I believe there is no greater calling than motherhood.

That sweet baby girl is now a fun, loving, athletic, talkative 6 year old who I love dearly. I truly believe that I was the only way she could get to her family.

I am so thankful for the gift of adoption and I want the world to know just how bitter sweet adoption can be. My life has truly been blessed by adoption. The song by Michael McLean called “From God’s Arms, to my Arms, to Yours” sums up my entire story. The experience has changed my life forever. She helped me see life in a whole new light and changed the way I was living. I am indeed grateful for the experience that I went through because it has taught me numerous things. I know adoption is not for everyone but it has certainly blessed my life beyond measure. 

My whole life from the moment I was born to where I am today is not by chance. My life is a journey and adoption is a big part of that journey. Through the heartache, pain, tears, unspoken prayers, answered prayers I have found hope, love, forgiveness, and grace. Adoption for some has been a bad experience, for me it was a magnificent gift. A thousand time over I would never go back and change a single thing. I chose adoption because I love her. Adoption is all about love. I am an adoptee and birth mother.
— Jori

Jori resides in Panama City, Florida with her husband and their three beautiful children.  She is also a writer for Adoption.com.  


What a better way to celebrate love in February than to feature some women we love and admire so much... Birth Moms! We had the privilege of spotlighting some truly amazing women whose stories have truly had an impact on our lives in great ways!