“IT’S NOT FAIR!”
How many times have we heard our children scream those three words in our face? Better yet, how many times have we found ourselves in the trenches of life screaming them out?
In my own life I continue to fling that phrase around while stomping my feet in my nearly forty year old tantrums. First at infertility, and now three of the people closest to me have life threatening illnesses. It’s not fair. And while half of me wants to curl up in that fuzzy blanket eating cookie dough and snotting, the other half feels like Braveheart screaming out “they may take our lives, but they’ll never take our freedom!” I’m ready for battle.
Life can feel like one big poop emoji sometimes. It isn’t fair. But then again, is it really meant to be? It can still be good when we learn how to navigate it and love the heck out of it regardless of the big pile of poo. We all have something in our life that isn’t fair. And we have to learn to love that life we didn’t choose.
I’ve been a big fan of Melanie Dale’s for a while – of her blog and of her first book, Women are Scary (because hello we totally are). I love her heart, her honesty, and her sense of humor. But her new book – It’s Not Fair, Learning to Love the Life You Didn’t Choose – is my number one recommended book. Let’s just say if I were Oprah, then “you get a book, you get a book, YOU GET A BOOK, everyone gets a book!”
Melanie takes us through her own battles of infertility, adoption, and other shattered dreams. Every single person can relate to her words. Maybe our circumstances aren’t exactly the same. Maybe it isn’t infertility that has thrown sucker punches straight to your ovaries, but maybe it’s cancer, loss of a job, or the loss of a loved one. Whatever it is, Melanie navigates us through all those real emotions. She shares how to live with purpose and lots of humor.
This isn’t a “how to” book, it is a “me too” book. It is one where you will be comforted in knowing you aren’t alone in this great big broken world.